Healing the Root, Not Just the Relationship

You can leave a toxic relationship. You can walk away from the person who drained you, controlled you, and made you question your worth. You can block their number, delete their photos, and change your environment. But if you do not heal the part of you that was drawn to them in the first place, you will meet them again.

It will not look exactly the same.

It will be a different face, a different name, a different story.

But the same wound inside you will attract the same spirit of harm.

The same emotional hunger.

The same desperate search for love and validation.

The same blindness to early warning signs.

Because what you are drawn to is not always what is good for you.

Often, it is what is familiar.

What mirrors your inner wounds.

What feels normal because it matches the pain you never fully healed.

The reality is, unhealed wounds seek familiar energy.

If you have not healed your abandonment wounds, you will attract those who abandon.

If you have not healed your lack of self-worth, you will attract those who treat you as disposable.

If you have not healed your fear of being alone, you will attract those who make you feel lonelier in a relationship than you ever did by yourself.

This is why walking away is only half the healing.

The real journey begins inside.

It is asking the difficult questions.

Why did I accept behaviour that hurt my soul?

What did I confuse with love?

What part of me was trying to be rescued instead of trying to be respected?

It is not about blaming yourself for the harm done to you.

It is about taking responsibility for the parts of your soul that were vulnerable to it.

Healing is learning to love yourself the way you wanted someone else to love you.

Healing is becoming so deeply anchored in your worth that you do not cling to those who cannot see it.

Healing is protecting your heart so that the next time a familiar demon dressed in a different form appears, you recognise it immediately and walk away without a second thought.

Healing is knowing that your soul was created to thrive, not just survive.

Ask Allah for healing.

Ask Him to reveal the wounds you need to face.

Ask Him to guide you to the love that will honour you and elevate you, not break you.

And remember, every time you choose healing over repeating, you choose growth.

Every time you choose truth over illusion, you choose freedom.

Every time you choose Allah over attachment, you choose real love.

Leave the pain behind completely, not just physically but spiritually.

Because you deserve more than surviving the same lesson in different forms.

You deserve the peace that comes when the lesson is finally complete.

May Allah heal your heart, purify your attachments, and guide you to what is better for your soul and your akhirah.

Ameen.