Don’t Tell Them You Know

One of the most powerful things you can do when you realise you are dealing with a narcissist is this:

Do not tell them you know.

As tempting as it is to finally name it

To confront them

To explain to them that you see through the manipulation

To make them realise the harm they’ve caused

It will not go the way you think

Because you are not dealing with someone who is willing to take responsibility

You are dealing with someone who needs control more than they need truth

Telling them you know gives them something dangerous

It gives them new information

It shows them you are becoming aware

Which means you are becoming a threat

And a narcissist does not deal with threats with humility

They deal with them with strategy

They will shift tactics

They will mask their abuse better

They will make you doubt yourself all over again

Or worse

They will make everyone else believe that you are the problem

So instead

Stay silent

Let them think you are still confused

Let them believe their tactics are still working

Play the role if you must

But use that space to build your strength

To plan your exit

To protect your energy

To detach emotionally

To seek Allah’s help

Your silence does not mean weakness

It means wisdom

You are not obligated to educate the one who is committed to misunderstanding you

You are not responsible for making them admit what they know they’re doing

You are only responsible for your own healing and your own safety

Let them live in their illusion

You live in your truth

And trust that Allah will expose what needs to be exposed

In His time

Not yours

You don’t need to announce that you see through the act

Your peace will speak for itself

Your detachment will say what your words don’t have to

And your decision to move forward without them is the clearest message of all

Stay silent

Stay wise

And let your healing unfold in the light of Allah’s protection