The More You Entertain Waswasa, the Louder It Gets
Waswasa are the subtle but destructive whispers that come from Shaytaan and your Qareen. They are meant to sow doubt, confusion, fear, and self-sabotage in your heart and mind. They do not come all at once. They creep in slowly. A passing thought. A small seed of doubt. A question that leaves you unsettled.
And the more attention you give them, the more space they take up in your mind. The more power they hold over your emotions. And the more distorted your reality becomes.
This is especially true for those who have experienced narcissistic abuse, spiritual manipulation, or toxic codependency. Because when you live in a space where your voice is silenced, your worth is questioned, and your reality is constantly denied, your soul becomes fertile ground for waswasa.
Waswasa sounds like:
• “Maybe it’s my fault”
• “Maybe I am overreacting”
• “Maybe if I just tried harder they would love me”
• “Maybe I am being too sensitive”
• “Maybe Allah is punishing me”
This is how narcissists, especially those who wear religious masks, succeed in their control. They use your own heart against you. They plant shame, fear, and guilt. They distort Islamic teachings and make you question your imān. And the Qareen feeds on this distortion. It whispers thoughts that seem true but are far from the mercy and justice of Allah.
Waswasa convinces you to stay in places Allah is trying to remove you from. It makes you mistake abuse for patience. It makes you confuse silence with sabr. It makes you believe that enduring harm is your religious duty. It keeps you stuck in emotional and spiritual paralysis.
And once that cycle of confusion begins, it can feel almost impossible to break. Because you are no longer only dealing with the voice of the narcissist. You are also battling the whispers of Shaytaan and the Qareen who amplify those voices and disguise them as your own.
That is why it is so important to recognise the source of these thoughts. If something keeps you in pain, in fear, in shame, in guilt, and away from your connection to Allah, then it is not from Allah. Allah does not whisper. He speaks through clarity. He guides through ease. He confirms through peace.
So what can you do?
• Stop entertaining the whisper. Do not debate it. Do not try to fix it. Just dismiss it.
• Protect yourself with dhikr. Shaytaan flees from remembrance. Recite Qur’ān. Say your morning and evening adhkār. Fill your home and your heart with the names of Allah.
• Sleep with wudhu. Recite Ayat al-Kursi. Ask Allah for protection from the Qareen and all unseen harm.
• Seek knowledge so that no one can twist the religion to control you again. The more you know the real message of Islam, the less power people have over your deen.
• Set boundaries with those who use fear to control you. Boundaries are not rebellion. They are obedience to Allah who commands justice and protection of the soul.
You are not crazy. You are not too sensitive. You are not overthinking. You are under attack from voices that want to separate you from yourself and from your Creator. But Allah has given you the tools to fight. You just have to use them.
Every time you ignore the whisper, you weaken its hold. Every time you remember Allah, you feed the soul and starve the Qareen. Every time you trust your gut and walk away from harm, you reclaim your heart and your imān.
You were not created to live in confusion. You were created to walk in truth.
Ask Allah often:
Ya Allah show me what is from You and what is not.
Remove from me any voice that is not Yours.
Protect me from those who pretend to represent You but lead me away from You.
May Allah give you clarity over confusion
Strength over fear
And peace over whispers
Ameen.