Don’t Go Back to What Allah Has Rescued You From

Sometimes, what you call love was actually a test. What you thought was a husband sent for your happiness was, in truth, someone sent for your awakening. And when Allah rescues you from that, it’s not a loss — it’s mercy in disguise.

Many women, after leaving a toxic or emotionally abusive husband, feel torn. The mind remembers the good moments, the apologies, the empty promises of change. You begin to question yourself — Maybe I was too harsh. Maybe I should’ve been more patient. Maybe it was my fault. But pause for a moment and reflect: if it was truly good for you, would Allah have removed it from your life?

Allah never takes something away without reason. When He removes a person, especially a husband who causes harm, dishonour, or emotional pain, it is a divine rescue. Sometimes we mistake attachment for love, but love in Islam is meant to bring sakinah — peace, not pain. It is meant to make you feel valued and protected, not broken and fearful.

When Allah pulls you out of something harmful, going back is like reopening a wound He healed. You might convince yourself that people can change — and they can, but only when they want to, not when you hope they will. You cannot fix someone who refuses to see their own wrong. You cannot love someone into becoming the man Allah wants him to be.

Many women go back because of fear — fear of loneliness, fear of judgment, fear of starting again. But when you return to what Allah rescued you from, you are saying you trust your pain more than you trust His plan. And that is where most women continue to suffer — in cycles of hope and heartbreak that Allah already freed them from.

A husband who dishonours you, manipulates you, silences your voice, or uses religion to control you, is not a man Allah commands you to obey. Obedience to a husband is within obedience to Allah — not in disobedience to Him.

So if Allah has already shown you the truth, revealed his character, and removed you from that darkness, do not walk back into it. Trust that the One who saved you can sustain you. What left was never meant to stay. What stays will never make you question your worth or your safety.

When Allah removes a husband who harms you, He is not punishing you — He is honouring you. He is saying, You deserve peace now. And peace will only begin when you stop reaching for what He has already released from your life.