When You Truly Want Something, Excuses Disappear

There is something subtle but powerful that happens inside of us when we genuinely want something.

We move. We act. We adjust our lives. We get uncomfortable. We stretch ourselves. We show up.

But when that deep desire is missing, even though we might say we want it, the excuses begin to pour in.

“I’m too tired”

“I’m just overwhelmed”

“I’ll do it tomorrow”

“It’s not the right time”

“I’m not in the right headspace”

“I’ll wait until things settle down”

And the strange part is, we often believe ourselves. We convince ourselves that we’re doing all we can. That life is just too much right now. That if only things were different, we’d definitely be doing it.

But here’s a difficult truth that many of us need to hear:

When we truly want something, we make it happen.

When we don’t, we make excuses.

This doesn’t mean we don’t have real struggles. Of course we do. Life gets heavy. Our emotional load is real. Our plates are full. But the difference is in how we respond despite the challenges.

Think about it.

When someone you love is in need, you don’t think twice. You make it happen. You stretch yourself. You find the time. You show up.

Why?

Because your heart is in it.

There is no room for excuses when love is what drives you.

The same goes for our healing, our growth, our goals, and most importantly—our relationship with Allah.

We say we want to heal.

We say we want to grow.

We say we want a better relationship with Allah.

We say we want to live with purpose.

We say we want inner peace.

We say we want to be more disciplined in our ‘ibādah.

We say we want a better life.

But what are we doing about it?

Are we showing up, even in small ways?

Are we being consistent with tiny actions?

Are we willing to do the uncomfortable work, or only the convenient parts?

Ask yourself this honestly:

You say you want to pray on time. But are you actively working towards it, or still letting life dictate your salah?

You say you want to wake up for tahajjud. But are you making small changes in your evening routine to make that possible?

You say you want to be consistent with Qur’an. But do you open it daily, even if it’s just for five minutes?

You say you want to heal. But are you making space for reflection, therapy, journaling, or support groups?

You say you want peace. But are you setting boundaries, letting go of toxic habits, and choosing what nourishes your soul?

You say you want to become the best version of yourself. But are you showing up for her?

Because the truth is, change is rarely easy. Growth is uncomfortable. Healing takes time. Consistency requires discipline.

But when the intention is sincere, we keep going. Not perfectly. Not flawlessly. But we keep trying.

We fall. We get back up. We lose focus. We return.

And Allah, in His infinite mercy, sees every effort.

Every silent struggle.

Every tiny act that nobody sees.

Every moment you whisper, “Ya Allah, I’m trying.”

But that journey begins with honesty.

We need to stop pretending we’re doing our best when we know we’re holding back.

We need to stop telling ourselves we’ll begin when things calm down.

We need to stop hiding behind the idea of wanting change while continuing to avoid the actual steps.

Many of us are in love with the idea of who we want to be.

The healed version.

The disciplined version.

The woman who is deeply connected to Allah, who is peaceful, calm, purposeful, strong.

But becoming her requires sacrifice.

It means doing what is hard.

It means doing what is boring.

It means doing what nobody claps for.

It means choosing effort over excuses.

And the more we delay, the further we drift from the woman Allah knows we can become.

So today, take a quiet moment and reflect.

Where in your life are you making excuses?

What do you say you want, but your actions don’t match?

Where are you convincing yourself that you’re trying when deep down, you know you’re avoiding?

This isn’t about guilt or harshness. This is about awakening.

Because once you identify the excuses, you’ll also identify your power.

You’ll realise you are not as stuck as you think.

You are not incapable.

You just haven’t committed yet.

And when your heart truly decides to begin, for the sake of Allah, He will carry you.

He will open doors you never saw coming.

He will strengthen your limbs when they feel too weak.

He will bless your time, your steps, and your journey.

But He asks you to start. Even if it’s slow. Even if you’re scared. Even if you don’t know how.

Start sincerely.

Start from where you are.

Start for His sake.

Because Allah does not expect perfection.

He wants sincerity.

And sincerity always shows up.